Kamis, 16 Mei 2013

Love to Listen

This lesson is about listening and the benefits that come from listening. Some people just don't like to listen.
You don't want to be like that.

Example:

One day, Bob goes over to a friend's house for a potluck dinner. Afterwards, Bob notices a circle of the guys over in the corner having a discussion. He catches a snatch of what they're talking about, and he interjects a few thoughts on the advantages of old farm tractors.
After several minutes, Bob pauses. There is silence among the former conversants as they try to imagine where he is coming from. They had been discussing the difference between male and female car drivers not farm machinery. Bob chalks their silence up to shyness, and he starts talking again on little known facts about farm machinery.
As the men begin to drift away, Bob becomes more and more animated. He thinks they must not be getting what he is saying. The remaining men wait for a pause to interrupt Bob courteously. Finally, one man shrugs, mumbles something about getting somewhere on time, and strolls away. Everybody else does the same.

What is Bob's problem? Is it that Bob just talks too much? People who know Bob might agree. However, is it possible that his porblem is deeper? Can it be that Bob simply does not like to listen? Did he enjoy telling people what he thinks more than he enjoys listening to what they have to say?

A wise man will hear, and will increase in learning,
And a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel. (Proverbs 1:5 NASB)

In this verse Solomon tells us that wise men try to listen to others and that is how they learn things. A spririt of listening goes a long way to communicate an attitude of humility.

Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak... (James 1:19 NASB)
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man is he who listens... (Proverbs 12:15 NASB)

A person who is humble and who loves to listen, may show these characteristic :
1. He is more interested in hearing what other people have to say than in having them listen to him. Humility brings respect for others and for their thoughts.
2. He places a modest value on his own opinions, he admits that other people often have better ideas than he does.
3. He willingly admits when he doesn't know something. If he doesn't understand something, he is open about it.
4. He is willing to question his own position on an issue.

If a person shows these qualities, then he may be someone who loves to listen. And being a person who loves to listen is another ingredient to having an inquiring mind.

(The Fallacy Detective, Nathaniel & Hans Bluedorn)

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